Let LOVE Guide Your Actions
This week I have had numerous conversation with people who have asked me “What’s going on?!?” then have gone on to tell me about unsettling events and situations that are causing them to shake their heads in sadness and disbelief. I’ve heard about multiple suicide attempts, relationship challenges, fear around moving forward and uncertainty about next steps.
Personally I have a couple of those moments myself…….one last night when a stranger yelled at me in a restaurant because I was having a conversation with my dad and brother around the issue around legalizing marijuana in Canada. He actually yelled at me to “Be quiet, I don’t want to hear your thoughts on pot.” I looked at my brother and father, both pretty conservative, and asked…..”Did I say anything inappropriate?” No, they both assured me, I had not and we finished our conversation before leaving the restaurant. I said to them, looks like I have my Feel Good Friday message for the week…….
You see, regardless of his views on this issue, I feel pretty certain this man was not really angry at me. Likely he has some pent up anger or frustration that I triggered. I was an easy target and possibly saved the lovely woman he was with from experiencing his wrath at a later time. You’re welcome…….for now.
But like so many of us, this man will likely find himself reacting negatively again in the future. Reacting to a situation before him instead of addressing what’s really going on…..likely fear. Fear is rampant in our society right now. We are fed fear in all areas of our lives. Parents instil fear in children under the pretence on keeping them safe. . Politicians instil fear in people in the hopes of gaining their votes. The media instils fear to gain more viewers and readers. It seems to me that many of us have lost our ability to discern truth from fiction and rather that questioning these motives, we stay in fear and that fear controls us and causes us to behave in ways that are over the top, like the man in the restaurant.
I think love is the antidote to fear. I think that by shifting ourselves to a place of love relieves us of the poison called fear that invades us in subtle and not so subtle ways.
Imagine what might have happened if my dinner companions and I had met this mans fear with our own. We could have easily ended up in a heated argument. It’s these kinds of confrontations that result in tragedies that seem incomprehensible to us when we’re in our “right” mind yet it’s these altercations that we see on the evening news everyday. Police shootings, road rage incidents, war and atrocities against humanity……..all of these stem from a place of fear. Fear that someone is out to get us, fear that we will lose if another group wins, fear that there is not “enough” to go around…..the list goes on and on.
So how do we combat this insidious energy so we can experience more peace in our lives and share that with others.
First, take a close look in the mirror. Do you spend time focussing on what’s right or are you always looking for what might go wrong? Do you have an attitude of gratitude or one of mistrust? Are you expecting things to work our for you or waiting for someone to bring you down?
Second, take a look at what you’re reading and listening to. From news to music to books we read, all of these have an effect on our psyche. Limit your exposure to things that bring you down and if you absolutely must follow the news, be sure to switch it up a bit to get a broader perspective of the issues.
Third and most importantly, be sure you are loving and kind to yourself. It’s imperative that you speak your truth but do so in a manner that is respectful, then be open to another perspective. Make sure you are doing things to fill you up rather than tear another down. Go for a walk, get plenty or exercise, rest when you need to and spend time with people who make you feel good. If you feel angry and stressed with certain people, limit your time with those people. Do things that fill your cup so you limit the chances that you will go to reaction mode and lash out.
Finally, be sure to spread some love. As we were leaving the restaurant last night I silently sent love to the man who yelled at me. Instead of reacting to social media posts with vicious attacks stop, take a breath and offer up a prayer to those who have a different opinion. When engaged in a debate, try to spend more time listening, REALLY listening and less time planning your response. You might be surprised by what you can learn. And of course………you know it’s coming……..dance it out!! Create some positive energy in your life and body so you are coming from that place of love in all your interaction.
I’d love to hear how YOU are letting love guide you and as always I’m sending you peace and love………...